Transparent Tuesdays

On Socialization – Jessi Kneeland – Fitness Article

On Socialization – Jessi Kneeland I occasionally find myself in conversation, talking about what I do for work, with a person who disagrees that “society teaches girls and women that their worth is based on their appearance.” Recently a dear male friend said “what kind of asshole is teaching that??” thinking I meant parents were telling little girls directly “honey you are only worthy of love and happiness if you’re thin and pretty,” which (thankfully) is not usually how it…

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Elevator pitches – Jessi Kneeland – Fitness Article

Elevator pitches – Jessi Kneeland Over the years I have changed my “elevator pitch” about what I do for work about a million times. (TBH, that’s partly just the nature of being a solopreneur, the result of catching up my marketing-and-business skills to my passion for coaching. But it’s also because I changed my brand 180 degrees from fitness to body image and self-worth coaching.) Originally, even back when I was training people at the gym, I would say “I help…

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Fuck Gender. – Jessi Kneeland – Fitness Article

The more I learn about the ways in which we socialize children to perform gender, the more I find the whole concept of binary gender identification disturbing and useless. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve found it disturbing since I was a child. I felt like it was unfair and stupid that there was a set of expectations for boys, and completely different one for girls. I experienced these separate expectations as oppressive and infuriating, because the expectation for “girl” didn’t…

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Body Image Basics – Jessi Kneeland – Fitness Article

I’d like to go back to basics today. Sometimes I get questions like this: “I have a friend who is struggling with body image or body dysmorphia, and I’d like to point them in the direction of helpful resources, where should I start?” Unfortunately, the book I’d like to recommend (mine) hasn’t been published yet, and there is no “one right book” on body image out there yet. Why? Because body image issues don’t discriminate, and the obstacles facing people…

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The Most Beautiful Girl In the World – Fitness Article

The Most Beautiful Girl In the World Hi friends!  I’ve never done this before, but today I have a guest post, a beautiful essay written by a wonderful human and client Courtney Paré. Like many women I know, Courtney has been on a journey of self-acceptance around her body and appearance for a long time, and she brings extraordinary levels of introspection, courage, humor, and authenticity to the process. As such, I once asked her what she thought she might…

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Are There drawbacks to the #MeToo Movement? – Fitness Article

Are There drawbacks to the #MeToo Movement? Recently I’ve started to wonder if there’s a downside to the #metoo movement. When I was growing up, people used to talk about rape and sexual assault in hushed tones, whispering to each other that something unfathomably monstrous had happened. There was an understanding that this horrific thing sometimes happened, at the hands of evil, vile people, and that it was absolutely devastating. We couldn’t imagine anything worse. I remember distinctly feeling like…

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Sex Myths – Jessi Kneeland – Fitness Article

Sex Myths – Jessi Kneeland I’ve been thinking a lot lately about sexual attraction and arousal. As I come to the end of my two year clinical sexology program, I’ve been reflecting on how much I learned, and how different my understanding of sex (both personally and as a coach) are now versus when I began. One of the biggest changes to my view of sex is how differently I see the process of sexual attraction and arousal. A few…

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{#TransparentTuesday} Sex and socialism. – Jessi Kneeland – Fitness Article

I recently read the book Why Women Have Better Sex Under Socialism And Other Arguments for Economic Independence by Kristen Ghodsee, and tbh it was pretty mind-blowing. First and foremost, it’s wild to me how capitalism is portrayed in US public education as the only viable way to structure an economy, and how challenging capitalism is considered blasphemy. (Like, it literally used to get people thrown in jail.) Second, this booked helped me understand that what we take for granted…

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{#TransparentTuesday} Perfectionism = Armor – Jessi Kneeland – Fitness Article

CW:Contains distressing but fictional stories. Lisa is 5 years old. Her mom is abusive, screaming obscenities, name-calling and hitting her at home, while being sickeningly sweet to her in public. Her father is absent, but her mother’s boyfriends are equally problematic. Her home is a merry go round of drunks, physical and verbal abuse, and inappropriate behavior. Lisa starts to create a fantasy, a place she can go in her mind to escape the pain and fear of her daily…

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